I am the result of an unplanned pregnancy. My mother developed hyperthyroidism after having two girls. About six years after Sheryl (daughter #2) was born my mother was treated for her disorder. What she didn’t know was that hyperthyroidism causes infertility that is easily reversed when the underlying disorder is treated. I don’t know if her doctor did not tell her or she simply did not hear him if he did. But 9 months after being treated for hyperthyroidism I was born.
Though I was unplanned, I never felt unwanted. My father was 43 & my mother 32 when I was born. My father was kind, patient, and filled with love for me. He was always there for me until his death when I was 29. He taught me how to drive a tractor and arranged for my first job at the age of 12 caring for a 5 acre yard. He would stop by with lunch and admire my work gently giving suggestions on what to do next. His pride in me taught me to take pride in my work. He helped me buy my first bike. He allowed me the freedom to ride that bike around town. And when it was time, he patiently taught me how to drive a car – a 1962 Ford Galaxy 3-speed manual transmission with the gear shift on the column. He then helped me purchase my first car in 1975. Though I inherited my mother’s temperament & many of her characteristics, it was my connection with dad that has most influenced my life.
We all have at least one person in our lives who has influenced us deeply. In fact, most of us have several people who have helped shape our lives. It’s worth taking time occasionally to consider the impact of these people in our lives and even drop them a note of thanks. I find this helpful as it reminds me of the characteristics of those who have meant so much to me. I don’t know why it’s so easy to take these connections for granted, but it is. And to take the time to dwell on the characteristics that produce the character I want to have helps me to focus on the life I truly desire.
In Colossians 1:11-14, we find Paul describing 5 actions of God that result in a connection with Him that I have found to be not only formative, but transformative in my life. In these verses we find that God strengthens us, qualifies us, delivers us, transfers us, and redeems us. Once you’ve experienced a connection with this kind of force, you will never be the same.